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Here are their stories, in their own words. Regardless of whether an intergenerational relationship has elements of mentorship, partners may find in each other a tenor of love and affirmation absent from their families of origin. When Katie came up to me and told me she was 26, I literally walked away.

My friends invited her out to dinner with us afterward and she won me over.

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That was 9 years ago. Queer people learn about our history, and to embrace who we are, from the families we choose. The older partner feels younger and the younger feels older than their chronological ages. Being the older queer, I was married before and have been in other long-term relationships.

We met at an Ivy League lesbian mixer in New York that both of our friends dragged us to separately. Shared finances play an important part in their commitment.

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“Older-younger pairings between adults are an important part of the cultural life of gay and bisexual men’s communities,” says Tony Silva, assistant professor of sociology at the University of British Columbia and co-author of Daddies of a Different Kind: Sex and Romance Between Older and Younger Adult Gay Men, a qualitative research study.

Our relationship is also very much defined by being interracial. She was a force of nature: an activist and a communist who ran absolutely counter to everything a Texan was supposed to be. Where I am now is where I wish I could have been in my 20s.

She also hadn't brought anybody home that was this level of seriousness, whereas my parents had been down that road with me before. If you're gonna date someone younger, you have to ask: do you have the patience to walk with someone who is still figuring themselves out?

But at any other time in my life, I don't think that I would have been prepared to be a parent. I've gone through many incarnations in my queer identity, from femme to butch to nonbinary and getting top surgery. The younger generation is very keen on being who you are, and that's been modeled to me.

I met Judith inwhen we taught high school across the hall from each other in San Antonio, Texas. And while there are instances where age-gap pairings can be predatory, especially when there are financial imbalances or one partner is particularly young, research has found that on the whole they tend to be more egalitarian than is often assumed.

It can be an interesting dynamic, because her parents are young Boomers and feel like contemporaries to me. It was my first evening out after a divorce and I was 40 at the time. Not that we have to look as far as Hollywood to find plenty of proud age gap couples sharing their experiences on social media, at times to dispel the assumptions of casual observers.

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I was Katie's first live-in partner and there was a big learning curve from her standpoint of what it's like to live with someone and the level of compromise. Our cultural differences are more prevalent in our lives and our age gap, which feels like something we joke about but never get stuck on.

They consider discrimination a part of being gay. I was blinded by her and immediately smitten. Many queer couples with significant age gaps would agree that forging connections across generations fosters the sort of cultural inheritance that shapes the queer community.